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Phillip Ross, Staci Lynn Smith, River and Piper Ross

The Oklahoma man whofatally stabbed his girlfriendand their two young daughters before killing himself in an apparent murder-suicide has been identified.

According to Sand Spring police, Phillip Ross stabbed his girlfriend, Stacey Lynn Smith, and both of their young daughters, River, 4, and two-year-old Piper. Ross then killed himself, Police Capt. Todd Enzbrenner said at a news conference Monday.

“My message is to hold your loved ones close as possible,” Ross’s cousin Shelli Bunn said, the station reports. “Just let them know they’re loved every day and let them be aware, and don’t be afraid to talk to them.”

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While the medical examiner has not ruled an official cause of death, Enzbrenner said the victims appeared to have been stabbed and had suffered from “sharp force injuries.” Several bloody knives were found in the home.

Enzbrenner called the scene “gruesome” and revealed Smith’s body was found in the home’s back bedroom while the bodies of Ross and his children were found in the front living room.

The last known contact with the family was around 7 p.m. on Friday. Witnesses told police at about 10:30 p.m. that night there was commotion coming from their home, which Enzbrenner described as “like furniture being thrown around.”

Investigators believe the family was killed between 10 p.m. and 11 p.m.

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source: people.com